How to Live with an Addict

No family is perfect, no matter what you see from the outside.

There are secrets and problems, although some are as simple as little Johnny not being able to comprehend certain subjects in school, or Dad’s affair some years back.  The point is, whether there has been a problem within the family unit, most people may never realize it because being part of a committed family means dealing with things out of love.  Sometimes, the problem may be a family member with an addiction problem.

Living with an addict is stressful but can be done.  It is always wise to take steps viewing the addiction itself as the enemy and not as your loved one.  It is also wise not to give in to the addiction so that you aren’t “hurting” your loved one’s feelings.  You are standing up to the addiction.

Being wise includes keeping separate bank accounts in your own name.  This happens a lot when the addict is your partner or spouse.  There is no need to feel bad or guilty; this is simply a logical and sensible solution to keep the home running well financially.

Keeping prescription medications and money locked up is another sensible step to take.  The temptation, even after rehab, can come upon a person if they see the prescription medications and this is a good way to fend it off.  Always encourage your loved one to go to a support group following treatment to help him resist any urges.

Living with an addict is stressful but can be done.

Alcohol can be an expensive addiction.  The one without the compulsion to spend on liquor should really be the one in charge of the finances and credit cards.  Also, always hold your loved one accountable.  If money has been spent on alcohol, show him outright the bill for the month.  Two hundred dollars for vodka and four hundred dollars for beer in one statement are a lot when it is all bought for a single person to consume, don’t you think?  Seeing his spending in black and white is the reality check he needs.

* Living with an addict is hard.

If you love him, it is definitely understandable.

The key is, do not enable the addiction.  If it is a teenager, he has to keep his grades up and understand that you are watching him a lot closer because you care and you do not want the addiction to hurt him again.

Another thing is (especially if the addict is your partner) do not forget to still have a life for you.  Work, church, and all social activities you enjoy do them.  Do not feel guilty picking up the new DVD of the movie you were dying to see.  A movie can’t destroy a family.  A substance addiction can.  But you have to take care of yourself in order to be there and be stronger for your loved one, you count too!