How to Break Up with a Drug Addict
Living with, or loving an addict can take its toll on the non-addiction person.
Many times, the emotional and physical pressure gets to be too much and the decision is made to break up with the addict. If this happens, do not let guilt stop you. Do not take on the burden of their addiction and weigh that into your decision. You need to be committed to following through and not falter.
If possible and if you haven’t already, you need tell the addict how much his addiction is affecting you and bothers you. Tell him that for his own sake, he needs to get help. Do this on a daily basis. This sets the stage for what is about to happen and gives them a warning that the limit has been reached.
- You need tell the addict how much his addiction is affecting you and he needs to get help!
If you live with the addict, it may be you that has to move out of the house to break up. This would indeed be a tough decision, which is why you have to be 100% sure you want the relationship to end. Then again, you may be able to persuade the addict to move out. If you do not live with the addict, establish your distance and keep it. Do not fall for the expected calls where they vow to change and will go to rehab soon and all of the other things addicts are known to say. If they call and say they have taken too much of the drug and they are sick, call 911. It may be yet another ploy to get you over there.
* If the addict continues calling, keep telling him to get help and go to Rehabilitation.
Eventually, he may get the message. Addicts will try all sorts of emotional games to get you back so be prepared for that. As a last resort, it may be necessary to change your phone number and perhaps even move. Drug addicts can be relentless. Do not hesitate to get restraining orders on the addict if need be.
Break ups are never easy but when you are dealing with a drug addict, it complicates matters ten fold (at least). You also cannot own the guilt if the drug addict does something stupid as a result of the break up.
* Is not your responsibility!
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I know how it’s like to be with an addict, his barely around, our children miss him constantly, however when he is around his angry. I’ve been with him since I was 15 and it’s been 8 years now and am just fed up with his life choices. I myself am going to school to become a RN nurse, and am in my second year. I feel it’s time to end our relationship but don’t know how, his full of empty promises, that I know I don’t always believe but wish they were true, it’s so hard because I love him so much and am still hoping he will be the guy I fell in love with. But I don’t think he will ever be that guy again, any suggestion on my my situation, really need someone to validate I need to be happy again…
Follow the advice above. Keep saying “Time to quit” like a broken record. Then move out, change your phone number, get yourself a bodyguard if you have the money. Buy a new car even, make yourself hard to reach. Here’s a good creative idea: Make yourself ugly for awhile. No makeup, paint dark circles under your eyes. Wear ugly moo moo tent dresses with a pillow added to make yourself look pregnant (threat of potential child support for the drug addict!), let your hair get scraggly, don’t even comb it in the morning. Either he won’t recognize you or he won’t want to recognize you. Just an idea if you can stand to do it. Remember that men are very much attracted to looks. A woman’s looks form 90% of the attractive power for men. That’s why we spend so much time and money cultivating our looks for them.
Sign me a wise old grandma